The situation with your 15 year old is between her and her Dad. Let her know that you are there to listen but he has to do the work here.
Actions! Listen to his actions not his words. Just as now you should let your actions speak for you. He isn't ready to come home, he hasn't realized the full gravity of what he has done to get him to see the work that he needs to do. He doesn't need to her you tell him what he needs to do. He needs to figure that out for himself.
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Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory