And another thing that boggles me to no end, is the fact there wasn't anything wrong with us. The only obstacle for my ex-gf was my ex-wife. Our chemistry/attraction was (I'm very certain) mutual and definitely not fake.
I have to also add that (for those who doubt) by practicing DB/DRing during the first break up, she came back on her own volition.
This time, for some reason, I feel less resolute in maintaining no contact. I guess it's because (a) there was nothing wrong with us, (b) we separated on rather good terms (no anger, no resentment, no critisms).
Sandycay, I forgot to answer your point about saying "I love you". Well, S always knew how I felt about her (because the new Alamo is more emotionally available and expressive!), though I never said love at any time. She knew that I was falling for her and that's it.
I decided to say "I love you to bits" is after some introspection after the break up, I thought that I needed to at least be honest with her and myself.
