Another thought, since you seem to have struck a nerve.

My H is tossing me away because my efforts are worthless and I'm no good. I'm finding my own value and standing on my own in spite of that crushing hurt.

Here you are tossing my posts here away and suggesting my efforts are worthless and I'm still no good. I also disagree with you and found your words crushing anyway.

I've got to try to heal from what happened to my marriage and even though it's extremely painful I've been open to whatever constructive criticism I could get here. I try really hard not to just brush it off but to take it in and observe whether there's some good I can take from it. But it still hurts, and it hurts a lot.

Adinva 51, S20, S18
M24 total
6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out
9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50
5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend
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Happiness is a warm puppy.