Not too good of a time, but that's the majority here on DB I suppose
I'll check into AmyC's thread.
I see you refer to SO as X...
I can listen, but some times I don't want to hear...
RE: my "choice" - yeah... I am really undecided about it. When my 1st marriage ended (my choice there) I knew absolutely that I was DONE with him. (There was infidelity there too.) And I knew it was done because I just didn't care anymore. Now, I can't tell if I care still because of the kids, the finances, or if I still just stupidly care.
I feel like some sort of monster for not caring "more". I know H is in pain and I do feel badly for him, but I have ducked and run for cover in some way. A part of me is just waiting for him to get on better, more solid ground before saying, "sorry, can't do this".
It is amusing to me that this option is totally off H's radar. LOL, he thinks its all up to him. But this is also where I feel like a monster because H feels I'm the only person in the world he can depend on. (Which, may well be true.) So what sort of awful person does it make me to also jump ship on him?
Me 46 H 56 M 22 yrs S22, D20, Twin Ss18
You teach people how to treat you by what you allow. What you stop. And what you reinforce. ~~~~~~~ A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.
