Just dropping in. Wow on the homefront. I guess you are not having a good time!
I recall reading on one of the resource threads that sometimes another "crisis" triggers movement in MLC. (AmyC's threads, maybe?)so maybe that is what is going on here.
When ex-SO began describing some of his emotions (not any more) I can recall just standing there with my mouth hanging open. I have never been a great listener (something I am trying to change)and now you get to practice for real!
Whether you stay in the M or decide to leave is always your choice. I think you are being amazingly strong.