Rough Divorce Settlement = not happening yet, until you decide what you want. Just because your WAW wants certain things in the D, does not mean she gets it. Do NOT play her game now, at the end. By the sounds of it, she has given you very little, emotionally speaking, so why should you give into her every demand. Nr. 1 - if you want the house, then fight for it (within reason, not spending too much on legal fees, iow). Nr. 2 - if you want D14 to live with you, then fight for her. Your WAW wants out, why should you lose everything?
Hope you seeing that lawyer.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim