H has emailed that he is in terrific emotional pain re: his parents. Apparently he snooped (hah!) and found some sort of "Accounting of H's father's time with his children" (H and his 3 sisters... unless there's some skeletons I don't know about. Which wouldn't surprise me.) BTW, the documents in question are in H's inbox... I haven't opened them. TEMPTED but I feel this is uber-private, and because it doesn't really concern ME I don't even have a shred of excuse to snoop here. TEMPTED though...
I said I was sorry to hear about his pain and asked for a "hint" of what he read. I do recall a letter FIL sent to H years ago wherein he stated that "H isn't FIL's "kind" of person". Not too warm and cuddly; if the "accounting" is more of that vein I can only imagine H's pain.
H's father is worse than H, and really really old school. Regarding infidelity, for instance, FIL feels its a man's right.
Sigh. I'm NOT having a good time. Not as bad a time as H obviously, but still, NOT a good time.
Me 46 H 56 M 22 yrs S22, D20, Twin Ss18
You teach people how to treat you by what you allow. What you stop. And what you reinforce. ~~~~~~~ A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.
