MLC, affair, internet pictures, we're a mess

[cantslowdown]

7720, I will check that doc out. I do wish she could see his warts. He is a narcissist, but I guess so is she right now. She also knows that the door is open; I won't try and cage her here if life is SO bad for her. I think my move forward is to focus on me and my boys. We certainly cannot make moves forward together if he is involved, but I am no longer using that as an excuse for ME to move forward. I believe I have in the past (seems I was codependent I think).

This morning she woke up peppering me with questions. Have I gone through her purse? Have I been talking to her parents about the R? I said no, but asked why she asks and has she talked to her parents since they were here (she pouted and threw fits when they didn't just take her side in hate against me)? She said no reason she was asking and no she is not talking to her parents about the R anymore (only talk to those who will agree with you!).

My only guess (and it is a guess, since I didn't push the issue and put on my happy face to get ready for work) is that she can sense my detachment. That I am not on her rollercoaster. That I am taking care of me. I don't think that RIGHT NOW I would be shocked by any new information about her behavior and that makes it easier to detach.

I want to GAL this Saturday night. I really need some just ME time (no other people). It really is a need I have that I have ignored for our entire relationship and I think it led me to withdraw, always trying to unwind, but never being able to fully do it since I was being SO nice and putting her needs first (boy was I so wrong about relationships).

I think I just want to go clothes shopping and maybe catch a movie. How do you bring this up without sounding confrontational? Just say I need some time alone Saturday night and I’ll be leaving around 7? When she asks what I plan on doing, just say I have no plans? Maybe it doesn't matter what I tell her because she will project her own lies into it and think I'm doing something else anyway, automatically causing mystery.