Yes, I also think I am done. Getting back in touch with the old girlfriend and then what happened last night when I got home just makes me think nothing will ever change. I can't fix him.
I received an email from my D's teacher saying that my D had said inappropriate words at school. When I got home I asked her about it and wanted to hear her side of the story. Well, my H blew up. Said it was my fault that this is happening, meaning the teacher not listening to my D (which wasn't the case), and sending her to public school, because we live in the city. He wanted to move years ago and it was my fault, "my master plan of living in the city." We had an agreement to live in the city 5 years and then move. He thinks it was 3 years. We've been in our place since 2005. We put it on the market once, but the real estate market was horrible at the time, so here we are. But according to him none of this would be happening if we had moved. As if this would not have happend in a public school in the burbs. Is it me or does that make no sense at all? I might have or might not have. He was verbally abusive, calling me names, in front of my D. He's done it before and it just doesn't make any sense to put up with it any longer. I feel like I failed my D, because I should have left before. According to him, everything is my fault, I'm the blame. He nver takes responsibility. And I get it, because as long as he makes it all my fault, he never has to accept that he's abandoned us, which is what his mom did.
I know relationships and marriages take hard work, but it shouldn't hurt this much.
