I hear you CSD...it is a hard thing to do...but it sounds like you are doing good work....I just don't know how you move forward with her living there and the om in the picture...if she moved out or in with him then I think things would take their course sooner as they would see each other warts and all rather than this romantic ideal that they have now...thats all...hope I was not being too harsh...I saw a documentary titled "Happy" made in 2011...I recommend watching that and see what comes up...I think a lot of times the WAS is unhappy and looks to the LBS to make them happy...and that is not how it works...just as your W can't make you happy...
