WOW! Is your h from Canada? If so, he's telling you he needs to go back to where it all began and find out why he feels the way he does. He also is very much aware of his mortality right now and the need go "home" in part is the depression talking. He may have moments of feeling really depressed and feels like he might die. This is very normal for those severely depressed and in crisis. Could he take a short trip to Canada, back to the place where it all began?
He's being very honest w/you about something missing. He feels like he needs to find a purpose in life and a place to belong and be respected. Obviously, he didn't feel he got those as a child or young adult from his parents. Well, he's got the timing right about re-evaluating his life. He does recognize that you do love him unconditionally, but there's something missing and only he can find that missing part because it is within himself.
Validate the fact that he needs to find a job that challenges him and provides him w/satisfaction and creativity.
What I find interesting is that he's not talking about actually leaving you. If you notice, he's actually diagnosed his own condition. Now, he needs to find solutions and we can only hope that w/gentle prodding he can heal himself.
Go gently w/your response. He's openned himself up to you and he could very well shut down if he feels you aren't validating him.
This is simply amazing and I'm glad the visit to his parents came about now.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
