I've decided to try to just do a 180 and let my H do his "process". This AM I offered again to go through After the Affair with him, with the hopes of me better understanding his hurt and trying to empathize as we explored it together. He took that suggestion as me trying to interfere with his "process." So, I'm going to get a stress ball or something so that I can suppress the urge to open my mouth. Because, after all, I certainly don't deserve to have feelings or an opinion.
Honestly, I think this is the right approach. Let him work thru things his own way and work together in MC as you can.
Try not to take offense to him not wanting to do it "your way." He has to travel his own path and until he actually reaches out to you for help, you can't really participate.
