Here is one the problems I am looking at in regards to our sitch. My wife and I are sharing the house when each of us have our daughter. I also have an apartment on my property that my wife is staying in when she doesn't have our daughter. I stay at my Moms. Our finances haven't changed at all. We still have our joint account, still paying bills, still sharing food, right down to her texting me today about X-mas present ideas for our D school bus driver. Literally the only difference is we can keep a little space between us during the days and nights. I am not sure if that is enough to give my wife a real snapshot of what it will be like without me around. Really, she has a pretty good thing going on, tons of freedom, babysitter (me) every other weekend and nobody to answer to. I cannot kick her our at this point, because I agreed to the terms when this was to be a "trial separation". We set it up for 3 months, ending Jan.
My W and I are still living together and sleeping in same bed with court date looming over our head and minimal R talk. I understand how hard and difficult the sitch is and how you'll feel like a complete doormat. Just do your 180's consistently, DB (don't pressure or try to control anything, don't ask any questions, detach, GAL, etc...), and learn her LL.
For me I have a rough date for when I plan to S if things aren't improving to show her what life will be like w/o me but now I have to consistently show her the new me and what she'd be missing before that. Think about it, right now she doesn't like you so if she leaves do you think she'll miss anything? You need to become the perfect husband for her and then if she leaves she might realize what a mistake it is.
Personality is who the world sees, character is who you are
