We had been emailing light stuff back and forth - he was making up fake Confucius sayings lol (knowing my weakness of "Is that REAL? Let me check that out... ) So I think he was open to a response. His next line was this

Why am I torturing myself and telling you what is on my mind. I am sure you will take this all wrong.

I responded with this

It often helps to share feelings with somebody. I only wish you also had somebody trained in counseling to tell, someone who can better help you.

He's been partially open to finding some type of a counselor but hasn't yet found a good fit for him. I did also make other responses along the lines of "I am sorry this is happening to you" I kept myself out of it. But then, he kept me out of it too, so that was easier.

Me 46 H 56
M 22 yrs
S22, D20, Twin Ss18

You teach people how to treat you by what you allow.
What you stop.
And what you reinforce.
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A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.