Very sad to be here but H says he is leaving

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Thanks for the advice. when i spoke to him yesterday about upcoming plans - again my kids don't want to go stay with him - he was unhappy about that and I said something like "I'm am going to tell you this because I love the girls and know that in the long term it is really beneficial for them to have a relationship with you, but in the short term you really need to make them a priority for them to want to spend more time with you" He reacted angrily with "What are you talking about?" I pointed out about three things he has promised/told them about and then either backed out or just not shown up (to Ds games). He argued that he had good reasons to miss the games (one of which I know is not true). I said that I am trying to encourage them to spend time with him but when he lets them down it is hard - he said he didn't think I encouraged them. So I said "last Friday I packed their bags, i talked about how much fun the light show would be, showed them the newspaper that had photos of the show. Then when they come home they tell me that you were paying more attention to other people. Don't take them on your dates." He backpedaled and immediately said that he is not dating and there were lots of people at the show. The discussion continued with him still denying dating but also telling me a couple other things I know aren't true.

Turtlegirl - not sure if it is PA but assume so. He was showing pictures of "his new girlfriend" one night at the bar at the tennis club where we both play. Not sure how stupid e thinks I am or if had drank so much that he doesn't remember doing it. I also did a little snooping (I know not DB style) and he unfriended OW's husband between Saturday night and and Tuesday morning.

Maybe it is because I only slept a few hours last night but I actually feel fairly calm about it this morning. I won't bring up OW again, unless he has our Ds around her again. The flat out lying has me more concerned right now. I am getting nervous about our finances (he keeps assuring me that we are "just fine") but still hasn't produced and of the paperwork. I am also worried about his drinking. Partly for him but mostly where it concerns our kids - I just can't trust him right now and don't want him to do something stupid when he has them.