Where do I go from here?

[Hopeful84]

Thanks guys for the input, and yes. I actually made a file, printing out all of my evidence of his affair, and have it locked in my safe at work- which only I have access to.

I have consulted with a divorce attorney as well.

And I have alredy been listed on his insurance and benefits at 100 percent... so making sure all of that also kicks in as well, just in order to be ready.. you know?

I am seriously leaning towards moving out after January 2nd.. which is our 10 year mark.... I don't want to make it too obvious and file papers as soon as that day happens... but I do want to set boundaries... which is, she is in your life... its been 10 years... Its been a year of this bull crap I deserve better.... lets make this break legitimate...

I have been looking at apartments and can swing it... but I do need to wait for him to find a job.... right now we are kind of in crisis mode... but to be honest, I feel like I can tackle anything that comes my way, even losing our house or whatever.. he suggested living in the house as roommates until we paid off our debt... umm, can you say living hell? no thanks?

Anyway... progress, yes, I guess.... where it needs to be... nowhere close... time for me to make a big step in the direction of a divorce... and see where he falls...

Hope all is well with you guys