Been a little strange. Ever since the big vacation D15 won't talk to H. She has also been defiant. I have been trying to talk to her but she is angry that H doesn't try talking to her eventhough she told him not to. I told H this and he said "she told me she didn't want to speak to me". I told him that she is very angry with you but you have to make an effort to talk to her and keep trying.

When we have been discussing D15 sometimes other things come up and he will say things like "I tried to tell you things and you wouldn't listen" or "no one cared how I felt".

These comments are making me think he is not ready to come home. So since we're both at work today I sent him an email stating that I have noticed that he keeps bringing that stuff up and if he is not ready to put that in the past, maybe he's not ready to move home. I told him again that I am in a good place and I have moved past that. I told him I do not bring up what he has done in the past nor am I going to and that "to forgive is a gift that you give yourself".

I also told him that I was working on D15 because she has many issues right now and I have also told her she needed to talk to her Dad and let him know what is bothering her. She doesn't want to but I know if he approaches her she will tell him "some" of what he is doing to make her mad.

So that is where we are. While it originally sounded good I am approaching it very cautiously because I am not sure he is ready. I have not heard back from him. I think if nothing else he realizes that I am not going to put up with his attacks. I also told him again that because he is tired of living with his parents is still not a good reason to move back. Only problem is he makes a lot more money than I do and we still pool our money like we always have. I guess he could move back since he is still paying the bills. If that happens I guess I need to know if I still proceed with the GAL and 180's and moving on, or do I show him the love and affection as if we were getting back together?

Not sure on that one. Any comments out there?

M 48 H 50
M 25 T 27
D 20,18,15
6/11 H filed
3/12 H dropped
4/12 H moved out