Interesting post Breakdown. I had never heard of the 5 Languages of Apologies but it makes sense. I'm going to look at these some more for my own sitch.
RegretfulLa - I'm sorry you're still struggling with your H. It sounds like he needs a lot of time to sort this out. I know from my own history I was hurting because our trust was broken but also because I felt like I was to blame for a lot of it. I think that's one reason many people don't get over them because it's easier to be angry and just check out rather then look in the mirror and accept what they did to cause the S to have the A (this board is rare in that you see the people willing to work on themselves and forgive). Like I said previously A's are extremely tough to get over and you should be prepared for the long haul and that he may not forgive you no matter what you do. If you feel like you've apologized and you feel like you've taken responsibility and expressed it so he understands it as well as you can then you can't beat yourself up over it anymore. He has to decide to forgive and move on and you can't do anything to speed up his decision. I think the suggestion to GAL is right on. Force yourself to do something so you aren't preoccupied by sitch and give him time to work it out in his head.
One other thing that I can't remember if it has been discussed on here or your previous thread but do you see your H changing in future to make a good M if he does decide to forgive? From what I remember it wasn't good for quite a while which caused the EA. I'd hate for you to work so hard to get forgiveness but he doesn't do anything else to fix issues and you end up being miserable again. Just something to think about. End goal is to be in a happy marriage; shouldn't be to just stay married.
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