Sorry you are going through this - this is a time for you to grow and shine.
That thing you always wanted to do but didn't - it's time to do it.
I stole this from T^2 but I say it all the time
Work on you, Stay out of her, Stay out of your own way, Be the lighthouse The warrior who knows he is waiting, and why, and find joy in his environment while waiting.
Remember no single action you do is going to make her come to her senses and snap out of this --
Detachment is the most important thing to do !!! And the hardest !!!
This was originally posted by Peanut. ============ II. Detachment Detachment is critical to the process of altering and repairing a relationship.
Attached, we take personally all that is said, not said, done and not done. Our ego gets wounded and we say or do things that undermine our goals.
We can NOT control the actions of another. We are, however, responsible for our own actions. We are responsible for our own happiness.
If we are detached from the actions of another, we can meet anger or indifference with love.
Met with love, we are in a position to diffuse the situation and transform it in a way that will be in alignment with our goals. On the flipside, detachment allows us to play it cool when we do get a positive reaction from our spouse. It is a way to break the distance/pursuer cycle.
Detachment is not withdrawal. It is not the mind saying, "I am not getting what I want so I must pull back." It is the natural acceptance of the reality that "I am alone responsible for how I act. I cannot control another person, but I can control how I respond to them."
If someone decides there is no goodness in you they won't be able to see it. I'll take a BLT over a MLC anyday !!!
