Even though it is cumbersome at first, the initial moderation period is a good idea I think. I believe it's a big reason why this board is so much more supportive of those who want to actually save their marriages compared to some other marriage boards. They can weed out those who push for D.
When I first posted on another active marriage forum board, I was advised by many that my W was having an A, and I should snoop, hire a L and file for D before she does! Needless to say I dropped out of that place, came here and my M still has a chance.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
