Ouch, Ed, I'm so sorry. Your story pointed out something my sister keeps telling me she saw on Dr. Oz or Dr. Phil or some tv doctor: kids are better off coming from a broken home than they are living in a broken home. It took a while for me to "get it" but I see that they are already in a bad situation. Neglecting to deal with reality and face problems head on, is NOT saving them from a bad situation.

I am trying to be open to however they feel, but I'm scared I won't handle it with the proper amount of dignity or grace. I tend to cry a lot, and it tends to put men (ie my h) off and make them shut down.

Adinva 51, S20, S18
M24 total
6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out
9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50
5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend
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Happiness is a warm puppy.