He's Just Not That Into You - The Sequel

[hopefulinga]

I wrote out a long post last night but I must have closed my browser before I hit submit. UGH!

Anyway, Breakdown has some good points. It's time to get back to GAL like you were several weeks ago. You were much happier. It is hard when you see progress not to get up your expectations and hopes, but that is exactly what we are not supposed to be doing.

Trying to hard is cheeseless. And you and I have tried the best we can. But we're supposed to be trying for a better us, not to make them come back.

I think I'm really starting to drop the rope. I honestly don't know if my H will ever notice but I'm starting not to care. Your H sounds like he is a little more invested in the relationship because of your kids, but has made the same "this will be better for all" comment that I've heard.

You may want to look at some of the progress but not pin your hopes on it. You H has a long way to go. I'm not an advocate of setting a timeline or deadline, but you will know when it is time to move on, if you get there.

labug posted on another thread about not being a fan of babysteps. I'll have to say that I can see her point after seeing babysteps and being worse off now, 3 months later. So maybe know that you have some small steps but also know that those don't mean that you will be M because of them.

At the end of the day, you need to be a good mom to your boys and need to keep yourself healthy. At some point, your H's antics and treatment of you are really going to bring you down. I swore I'd never let my M put me back on ADs and look where I am.