Michelle, Yes, Yes and yes again. Thanks so much for putting this down.
I am going to survive this, i know that now.
He can try, but he will not slap me down any more. I feel different about it all, FINALLY.
I still occasionally expect him to act like himself - had to resist the temptation to include a "How can you do this to your kids? / Who ARE you?" line in the email response.
No expectations is indeed the key to not responding emotionally to what he does.
I am going as dark as I can - it should be much easier now that the kids are almost on holidays from school and so will not be dropped off at home each day by him.
Shouldn't need to see him till next Feb! And even then... no real need for him to start up the school routine any more.
One thing about seeing the Bond movie - gave me some ideas about how to survive the theatrics of a deranged man who has you in his sights as responsible for all the bad that's happened in his life.
I will be JB, battered but steely at my core; ready to endure whatever is thrown at me, and full of self-belief / discipline (I love the movies!).
