UF, I know you want to give her an ultimatum... but don't. You will most certainly get an answer you DON'T want.
You are struggling with your expectations. That makes sense. It's super confusing at times which is why we say "believe none of what they say, have of what they do".
If you are happy spending all this extra time with your son, then keep that in the foreground of your mind at all times. Continue to make yourself believe that the toll of "playing family" is a price that you, as his father, would pay 1000 times over.
What would moving on mean to you? Spending less time with your son? If you dropped the rope, what does that mean?
Continue to let go of the anger. Us LBSers love to vilify our WASes. If it becomes something consistent, address it with her then in a calm and collective way.
M(f): 40 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
