I think my wife is having a mid-life crisis.

[Am I Too Late]

I am wondering if I want her back for the right reasons. I have my doubts whether she will stop sneaking around behind my back. I don't know if her obsession with having sex with others will stop. I wonder if I want her back so bad is because I am afraid to be alone and start over. I wonder if I am afraid to raise a child by myself, and I don't think I can do it alone. I am wondering whether having her back will be the best thing for my daughter, or if it will do more damage.

Sorry being depressed today, didn't get much sleep last night and I have a full day of classes.

Those are good questions you asked of yourself, regarding your fears of why or if you really want your W back, or just the familiarity of the M.

As far as raising your child, i have 100 % custody, not by court order, but because my W moved out and deserted our S-9 with me. It's a task, but he is a good kid and we fare pretty well so far, since the W last was home on February 16th of this year. But, for all intents and purposes, i have been the sole parent for the past 4 years, because my W disengaged from most all family activities when her own mom took ill and passed away, triggering a relapse from AA and a change of thought process. What had been written by her just 2 months prior to her mom getting sick is not her current perspective.

Be patient.

Think before saying anything.

Will what you say or do move the M closet to R or pull it farther away?

You need to callous up for all the punches to the gut that are still to come.

Act with indifferent kindness and not outwardly lovingly, as that will push her farther away.

Ed