Well the irony is that it's usually when the LBS totally gives up on the R that the WAS finally decides to consider returning. It seems like people who wait indefinitely never get closure. Their WAS is content to just keep stringing them along while they wallow in uncertainty. So in a way dropping the rope is a win-win, because if we well and truly do drop the rope then if the WAS returns we're in a better position to negotiate reconciliation terms (since our heart isn't invested anymore), and if they don't return then we're moving on anyway. That said, I am giving it more time because my W requested that, but I'm not going to just hang myself out there forever.
You make a good point. Although it might not bring them back it will force them to think over what they really want. I don't mean to wait indefinitely, but I do struggle with knowing if my wish to drop the rope is real. Always when I get to that state of mind something happens which throws me off balance again.
Today was one of those days actually, I will update my thread on it, you're welcome to stop by.
I guess I'm just afraid that if I drop the rope I will regret it.
I mean how do you really know when the time is right? M Maybe it never feels quite right and you just have to go for it at some point?
I do hope your W gets her head around the whole situation and that it takes a turn for the better. At least she want's time, so that's a sign she hasn't completely dropped the rope.
You seem like a well-balanced individual, and it's quite sobering reading your thread.
Together for 8,5 years. S2 Interest in OM. She left 29.09.12 b/c we couldn't work things out. No signs of OM, not digging. Living in seperate homes, sharing custody.
