And the same thing I think can apply to the decision of dropping the rope or not. If we hang in there just a bit longer instead of giving up, if we are true to ourself and our feelings, I think we will easier find closure if one day there is no reconciliation.
Well the irony is that it's usually when the LBS totally gives up on the R that the WAS finally decides to consider returning. It seems like people who wait indefinitely never get closure. Their WAS is content to just keep stringing them along while they wallow in uncertainty. So in a way dropping the rope is a win-win, because if we well and truly do drop the rope then if the WAS returns we're in a better position to negotiate reconciliation terms (since our heart isn't invested anymore), and if they don't return then we're moving on anyway. That said, I am giving it more time because my W requested that, but I'm not going to just hang myself out there forever.
Originally Posted By: complicated
Keep it up you guys. My situation seemed hopeless just 6 weeks ago and now we're talking about him moving back in. It hasn't happened yet and I'm being cautious but there is light. If I would have given up I'm convinced we would be D right now.
Wow, that's an amazing story, thanks for sharing!
Originally Posted By: 7720
sometimes I feel like I have dropped the rope and then something brings me back like a laser. So even though there may be a week where you feel nothing ...there might be another that brings you back in a hurry
I have seen that too, although as time goes on I find myself feeling less towards her even on those "rebounds". But the sad thing is I know I will always feel something towards her, I just don't think you can spend half your life with someone, raise 3 kids with them and then turn off all feelings no matter how much time goes by. Although she seems to have done that pretty easily, LOL!
