Thanks Another for the feedback - always comforting to know you are moving in the right direction. I don't always feel like it!
And Thanks BrokenHeart, looks like our timelines are very similar. I hate it for all of us!

Me: 41
H: 43
M: 21 yrs
DD: 15

1st bombshell: 2002 - 6 months
2nd bombshell/moved out: 10/03/2012
OW: 10/12/2012
Signed MDA & PP: 11/20/12; but not submitting
Confirmed OW living with H: 11/21/12