heeeeelllllppp!!

[MrBond]

"I think that if I am a better father and person, the husband thing will follow."

EXACTLY what everyone has been trying to tell you.

"you said that my wife didn't need to change. I don't know about that."

Yes she doesn't need to change. She doesn't HAVE to change. You put her in this position so it is her choice to live without you. If you change positively, she will WANT to change. Get it?

"Also, she has been good about keeping a lid on her temper, but she has said some mean things to me."

And so what? Stop keeping score and be the better man. It seems like she only does it because it seems like the only way to get through to you. I've already noticed that.

"My wife came in and said "trying to score brownie points?" I said no and that I appreciated all the work she did with the house over the years and it's time that I start pulling my weight."

It's about time. Now the key is to do this consistently and not to let your "changes" go away.

"I understand why you'd feel that way. I wasn't a very good partner. I'm sorry."
She said, "it's bout time you figured it out."

Perfect thing to say.

"She left then came in and said something curious about 5 mins later. She said 'maybe we should see someone" I didn't want to pursue so I let the comment lie and didn't address it. I just says "maybe"

See? YOU change and then SHE changes.