Thanks you for your comments dawn marie. He's still very confusing to me - I still see lots of signs of MLC, but as AnotherStander pointed out, I had become quite the nag - and pretty demanding as well. And a pouter when I didn't get my way lol.
Interesting turn of events this morning though - guess who is now checking MY phone records?! Yep. I'm assuming (that gets me in trouble, I know) that it's because I've been working on giving him space - not asking about anything, only contacting when he contacts me first and keeping things short. I also do not fill him in on particulars, such as last nigth when he asked about my day and I just said it was busy. So I wake up to texts from him about how I've been texting with a mutual guy friend, who I happen to work with as well. (even refers to it as this guy 'trying to pick up my wife') We actually had really good conversation about this whe he came to watch D this morning. Calm, non accusing conversation. And it gave me an opportunity to inquire about the new 25 yo, which I told him I have known about for awhile but had not said anything. He says he's known her for a long time but isn't atttracted to her at all. Who knows. I think the good thing that came out of this is he sees how it can be on the flip side but I also got to make some points to him without bringing it up myself. I assured him that I would not be involved with other men, that I have told him where I stand with us and that I will be here until he figures things out (but also added that I do not want to be made a door mat or disrespected) and also made the point that innocent texting can turn into much more very easily. As I'm still kind of stuck about the MLC thing - this could all be about nothing or it could be good progress. Confusing. I'm searchign for a new counselor right now. Last week I went to the one that he and I went to for awhile. He is a good therapist but not what I need - is not familiar with any divorce busting methods or MLC. Thanks for advice and support
18 months, etc - I can't imagine. Patience is something I am really learning.
