In reading your post I am not sure your H is MLC. It sounds to me like you've been nagging him a LOT. Always on his case about the lack of sex, who he's texting, where he's going, who he's with, etc. etc. Have you read DR? The nagging is your attempt to communicate to him, but he doesn't see it that way, he just sees it as nagging and he pulls away from you because of it. This probably causes you to nag more which in turn pushes him even farther away. You've got to break the pattern. You said you've been DB'ing and he's showing pursuit interest in you, why do you think that is? Is it because you quit nagging him? Please read the 5 Love Languages, it'll teach you some techniques for communicating with him through love languages. When you do this instead of nagging, it will pull him towards you instead of pushing him away! It will also get results, you fill his love tank first and he will WANT to listen to your needs. And when you start rebuilding the love in your M, he will no longer feel the need to reach out to other women. Forget the texting, forget who he's talking to, work on the one thing you can control- YOU!
Abolutely agree - I was a total nag and just wanted my old husband back. And did not understand at all that my methods were just making things worse. I have only been aware of Divorce Busters for about 2 weeks - so in that time I have been working on it.
