Hey LaBug,
I saw you ask on MKB's thread...Campbell Cty. You anywhere nearby? 8)

As far as dealing with the anger as you suggested, that's actually what I was doing the other night, laying down by myself trying to let it go, but W came and sought me out. It was taking me quite some time to let it go.

I think I may have figured out a part of my errors recently.
This morning I brought W a cup of coffee and the way she responded with "Thank you" reminded me of how she'd say it when she was with OM, full on in fog. It made me realize that I have been thinking she was out of the fog when she said she wanted to work on the R, when in reality, she's still there, perhaps not as foggy as before, but still there with which also explain her withdrawal lately.