Mr. Bond. AS I should write more clear. I mean that there are a lot of questions and I have a hard time keeping them straight. You guys are right that people are telling me basically the same thing, but I feel like I have 4-5 people asking me questions and that is hard to keep straight.

As, I will try to address your comments questions.

1. I wasn't blaming my wife for anything just trying to clarify where I was since 25 ask if I had read DB. I was trying to explain things.

2. Being a better person means, not getting mad. Not expressing negative thoughts to other people. not being critical of other people. being happier, healthier. Being a better dad means that I try to spend some time with the kids each and every day, try to play games/video games/ or something with them. Treat them with love and caring. Being a better husband is on the shelf for now because I don't have a marriage anymore. I think that if I am a better father and person, the husband thing will follow.

3. As far as the computer, my wife did put a passcode, but I figured on a work around so I could use this forum and go on the internet. I need the computer to go on the internet and email. I did use it to snoop, I admit. But 25 said that I was still not being honest with my wife buy using the workaround. So I decided to ask her about it straight up. I haven't used it to snoop, but I still need the computer to use. I was pretty proud that I was able to ask her about it instead of yelling and accusing things gain.

Mr. Bond.

you said that my wife didn't need to change. I don't know about that. I mean if I found out she had a physical affair and didn't want to end it. That would have to change. I would not want to be in a marriage where I shared my wife sexually with other men. Also, she has been good about keeping a lid on her temper, but she has said some mean things to me. If she continued that even after I changed, then I don't think I could be in a marriage like that. it's probably not a good idea to tell her.

Last night, I helped put the kids to bed again. when I was done I went to the kitchen to clean up. My wife came in and said "trying to score brownie points?" I said no and that I appreciated all the work she did with the house over the years and it's time that I start pulling my weight. She then said 'you know it's probably too little too late."
I said, "I understand why you'd feel that way. I wasn't a very good partner. I'm sorry."
She said, "it's bout time you figured it out."

She left then came in and said something curious about 5 mins later. She said 'maybe we should see someone" I didn't want to pursue so I let the comment lie and didn't address it. I just says "maybe"


Then I watched the Descendents - good flick, but it hit a little too close to home for me. Except I'm not a multimillionaire in hawaii. LOL.