It's been a LONG time since I've been on here. My divorce busting journey began in August of 2011. Fast forward to 11/29/12 and my divorce is final. I know this sounds discouraging, but keep reading.
When my ex told me that it was over I was devastated. I turned to this forum hoping and praying that I could do something to change what was happening. I felt so hopeless that I wasn't sure I could make it. I've battled with depression for years and I thought this is what would put me over the edge. I remember reading about someone who's wife left and became pregnant with another man's baby. I read that and thought that I couldn't handle that if that ever happened. Long story short, it happened, and frankly that was one of the tamer things that happened.
I'm not going to go into details because I'm not here to bash my ex. I'm here just in case there is someone out there that was like me and does not know how he/she is going to go on. Don't give up. Hang in there. This was the worst pain I have ever felt, and I'm sure it is the same for you. Keep the faith; my marriage ended, but that doesn't mean yours will. If you follow the advice given on here and start taking care of you, I guarantee you can pull through this and you will be a better person no matter the outcome.
I have to give a big thank you to Sandi2. Your advice is appreciated more than you will know. My biggest thanks has to go to MrBond. Let me tell you about this guy... he took a 2x4 and beat my @$$ many, many times. LOL. Of course, none of us would be here if it wasn't for MWD. There are plenty more out there that know what they are talking about. Don't just listen to them, do what they suggest.
I can't stress enough that time is your friend here. If you have kids, please remember that they are the biggest losers of this whole thing. Take care of yourself so you can take care of them. DO NOT put them in the middle of this. Take a parenting class... I didn't realize how many ways that even the best-intentioned parents can put the kids in the middle. Be their rock. They need as much stability as possible right now. If you feel like you can't be their rock, then fake it. The kids need you more than ever. Also, don't be afraid to take them to therapy. My oldest daughter has been going since the beginning and it has worked wonders. Don't be afraid to get therapy for yourself either.
I'm not going to say that it doesn't hurt sometimes... it does. However, I am happier than I ever have been. Hindsight being 20/20 this was one of the best things that could have happened to me. If I can make it through, I promise, you can too. Keep your chin up. I wish you nothing but the best.
It is very good.