Last night after dinner was GAL time. I had plans to go out with a friend.
While W was cooking dinner she turned to me and gave me a big hug. She said, "I wish you weren't going out so we could hang out." I smiled and replied, "We have Saturday!" She responded, "ugh. yeah... but we have to go to my brother's birthday party." Tonight she's going out with girlfriends.
Before I left I changed into my nice "going out" clothes and freshened my cologne. W gave me a once over glance but didn't comment. She didn't ask where I was going.
I went out to a bar we don't usually go to and saw a band. It was a good time! My buddy and I talked about putting together a small group of guys to jam. It's time to really start playing the guitar again!
-----
W was angry this morning. S didn't sleep well and she felt that I should have helped throughout the night because she was coming down with a cold. I sleep like a rock and she often ends up dealing with S. I've told her 100 times to wake me and I'll help. I commented, "You didn't ask me for help."
She snapped back at me. I calmly told her, "W, I really struggle to read your mind when I'm awake. It's especially hard when I'm sleeping. I'm willing to help, but you need to ask me."
----
Last weekend W said it would be fun to go to a concert that was advertised on the radio. We're going to the show next week. Hopefully this helps if she's "bored" with us.
It's interesting... in the last 1.5 months W and I have gone out together more than the past year combined.
That's a good thing. If your are like me, you are just fine being at home, hanging out, and being content. People like me/us, need to remember that others need more excitement, more variety.
You do know that the snarly was not about S being up, right? It was about you. You going out, you being calm, you having fun with AND without her. Keep it up SG, you are doing an amazing job of finding out who you are in this marriage.
