She said that I need hobbies. I need my own passions. She said that she feels like she has to be my everything and that one person can’t be everything for someone. She explained that she gets some things from me, some from her coworkers, some from her girlfriends… she explained that one person can’t be everything for another.

Believe this.

i shared this story with my IC yesterday.

On Sunday I went to a concert by myself. A friend plays violin in the group so at the last minute I decided to attend and was fine with going by myself.

As I sat there enjoying the music, a thought came to me "H wouldn't have enjoyed this at all." Had he been sitting next to me, I wouldn't have enjoyed it as much because I would have been worried that he wasn't enjoying it. If he had declined I probably would had been a little mad or would have stayed home and missed the enjoyment.

My questions to myself were: "Why did I think that we had to like the same things all the time?" "Why wasn't I OK with doing these things alone or with friends" (I did have other friend activities but should have had more)

So, do get out and get your own interests and activities. It will make you a much more interesting person and take the pressure off your W.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss