mrsrjd, It's okay. There are some people who came here searching for answers and may not be here to save their marriages. There is quite a bit of wisdome on the boards and even if you opt not to save your marriage, you are going to be okay. It's just a matter of deciding for yourself the question of when do you change the dynamics of your situation.
I will be honest w/you. I came here many years ago, searching for answers as to why my xh was acting like an irrational angry man. I got my answers, but I also knew that when he walked out the door the second time in a 7 month time period, there would be no coming back a third time. So, if you opt to end your marriage, don't feel like you can't come here for advice...we are here for you. You are still going to need support and that's what we all can provide to each other.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
