If you're going to be together shopping and then dining anyhow, you can get a card and small gift.
The card has to be about "things worth remembering" and maybe list a few, like the children you two brought into the world, a few great trips or funny nicknames or the way the kids get along, or talents they have, OR that SHE has, "and the list goes on" and thank her for making them with you.
Nothing about the future and "more memories" and NO expectations...
but respect for what you two achieved when things were good AND the times that were hard but that you still got through. IF she seems upset, you can apologize for hurting her and IF YOU FEEL that she needs to hear some reassurances from you (which is what my gut says she needs b/c she gave you a road map)
then give her some. Something she can believe WILL be different and better for you two. Something concrete.
Don't wait for her to reciprocate...move along on the new topic or DO something...FUN...without any expectations.
you're reminding her that you are fun man to be around and that NOT all the good times you had, must end.
make sense?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
