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[Big Bruce]

Hello there,
For once I have to disagree with the advice that has been given here.
Adniva's 3 years was sarcasm, like wait three years to move your little finger, NOT !

Ok, to not rush things, in the romance/date/relationship realm, but 90 days, (three months)... come on. I will let the feelings she has and the love remaining wither. Then she can say, rightly, that I am really not interested in her, that I am lazy and uncaring. And she would be right.
I say that by Christmas I should see some signs of improvement already, like holding hands, or kissing or something. It's not impatience, it's evidence that things are going in the right direction.

Of course, I'll let the lead to her. Thanks, that is Good advice.

As for getting more time with my son, it is precisely against the deal she proposed: give up the extra time I went to the lawyer for, against her dropping the D proceedings.
How can I the next day, say : by the way, I want more time with Brucie?

I know I have to show interest in my fathering him, and it is genuine. I so wish I wasn't forced to give up on him, I kinda accepted the death deal, either way, I lose.
So should I ask her to let him with me on Saturdays for example? Or one evening?
It's kinda awkward now with this weird deal. Any suggestions?

And yes, I WANT MORE TIME WITH MY SON. Regardless. Period.
There's no marketing here. I am not more or less attractive with or without him, and for that matter I am not interested in someone else. I am commited to my W, she is the right one for me. I know this. We're just having a rough time adjusting.

As for having the right tools and role model in M, I have to admit that I don't know who to look up to for a good exemple. But I'm a clever guy and I have studied the subject in depth with the time my W gave me as a gift. I can still read more books if I don't have it pat down. But I need practice, and that's why I need my W back first.

After all, she did pronounce the words : sort things out between us slowly.
And since she said she would drop the D, technically, I am piecing.
I went to my friends today to celebrate that.