But agan, it's hard because I don't see him in turmoil, I see him cool, calm and happy with his decision.
That is exactly how my W has been for the nearly 6 months since BD. Cool, calm, confident in her decision. But last weekend we had a talk and I was surprised to hear that she is still very confused about what she wants. She actually started crying about it, the first emotion I've seen from her since BD. So you never know what's going on inside.
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Well, she wanted it and I made it happen. Our house looks nice I think. I wonder if he'll notice.
Good job! Great GAL and "acting as if" move.
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I'm still not sure what I want as far as relationship. I fear people will think of me as a fool if I want our marriage intact.
Don't worry about what others think. Most of them WILL think the M is not worth the effort, that's just the way our world is today, M is disposable. But I doubt anyone would think less of you for putting forth an effort.
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So here's my game plan ... LESS contact.(Only when needed and I'm not jumping to his text unless it benefits me), working on me, making me better, doing daily devotions, reading DR, When the Vow Breaks (self help books) and when H is coming over, I put on clothes, put on make-up, etc... I'm not going to talk to him about OW, not going to talk about relationship, I'm going to do what he is doing and think of nobody but myself (and DD of course - since he isn't!)
Excellent game plan! That's all great DB'ing. Make it your long-term plan
