Separation at 17.5 months

[adinva]

Thanks Acc. Love pawn stars! We're getting closer to telling kids.

I was heading to hot yoga at 8 and H said do you want to tell the kids tonight? I said I needed a little more notice as I was on my way out and S14 wasn't home; I wouldn't be home until 10:30. Could we tell them after school tomorrow? H said ok.

Hot yoga felt good to be back in. It was hard because I've gained some weight, which I'm learning is a common side effect of longterm use of my A/D paxil. It worked great for me but I need to get my fitness back. I'm going to try tapering off and seeking something different to try.

I had a little chat with H today about talking to me. I found out through friends that he was P.O.'d at me for getting his car muddy when he lent it to me. The H of our friends ran into my H at the car wash where my H confided to him that it was a mess because I had been driving it and he couldn't be seen in it like this. Word got back to me, so when I borrowed it again I washed it and filled the tank before I gave it back.

I didn't get any recognition of that at the time, which was fine. I did it more for me, for practice in being more anticipative of thoughtful things I can do. And also because NOW I knew he would want it done.

That was about a week ago. Today I asked h if he'd noticed his car was clean when I gave it back to him.

He said oh, yeah. I told him, you know, you could have told me you'd like it cleaned and I would have done it. But I don't read minds. It would be much more clear and easier for you probably if you tell me instead of our neighbors.

He said oh, ok, and vanished from the room. I'm learning this for me as much as for him.