Yes, I love him very much. I believe if couples are together a long time that they will go though different periods of adjustment b/c we change as we face different trials in life. It seems like every few years there comes something different into the life of the couple. Just growing up....and then growing old changes us, and if we don't find a way to adjust to those changes...it breaks us apart. I am not that 18 year old girl he M, and neither is he that 22 year old man. We were kids when we M, and if we didn't grow together....we would have grown without each other.
I have to close down for tonight, but I wanted to tell you that it is possible to come together again. It's extremely tough after an A. Both of you have to do a work within yourselves....b/c each of you have painful issues, and there will be work to do as a couple. I have had so many people ask me how long it took us, and I didn't want to tell them b/c I didn't want to discourage them. I think it's always much longer than they believe it would be! At times you feel like no progress is being made at all. Maybe the baby-steps are so small you aren't sure that a step was made! But when you look at where you were during the worst of the worst.....then you can see just how far you've really come.
I hope to get a chance to post tomorrow, b/c I am concerned about your W.
Take care of yourself.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
