Your right, it would. And, as long as she uses the "he's just a friend" card, she thinks she can play any kind of game. Has she always had dinners with friends of the opposite sex, when you were not invited? You see, a lot of people think it's fine for a M person to out alone with some "friend" of the opposite sex. Well, it might be the "modern" lifestype of some, but it's still dangerous. There is a reason people use to see it as being inappropriate.
The more you confront her about OM, the more she'll find ways to cover up.....if she didn't want you to know. However, she apparently doesn't care if you know. So, if she doesn't care, and if she won't give him up.....then why does she lie about it? Try to detach yourself enough to see it from her point of view. Besides the M, what would she stand to lose if she told the truth? Who does she want to fool about what she's really doing? It must be somebody, b/c she's going with you to MC and lying about the A.....so that says she isn't serious about wanting the M to be saved. Is she bidding her time to see if OM's intentions toward the future includes her or not?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
