Some progress after 2+ months of DBing

[mamabird]

Good for you for not reacting. I know that sometimes it can get to you more than others... just depends on everything else going on. Many times I can just handle H's irresponsibility when it comes to the finances; other times, it's unacceptable. Lately, my H has been better about watching what he is spending - at least I think he has, but I wouldn't know for sure since i have no access to his accounts.

Getting a D would definitely be traumatic for all of you, and the question is, "Would you be better off with H or without H?" I know, personally, that I would probably be better off without H, but it's not all about me. I have two kids who would not be better off without H, so we owe it to them to try. And financially, it would be a disaster for us too. H actually said last night, "A D might be better for all of us," - he has no clue how much a D would affect the boys.

It just makes me sad to read your sitch sometimes. I feel like we are living parallel lives too.