I think you can take her show of emotion to be a sign that you are on the right track. Don't change anything. It sounds just right to me.

Make sure you don't get tempted to pursue when your W is emotional. Just validate.

You're doing great.

Me: 51
H: 52
T: 23 yrs
M: 19 yrs
S18, D16, S14 (special needs)
PA: 2003/2004
Piecing: 2004 on
Suspect H had EA: 8/2012-12/2012