I think that is a huge part of it, it's self-defense! We drop the rope to close the door on the pain we're going through and to stop more pain from coming our way in the future.
For sure. I've been pretty much straight forward about my sitch towards friends. I could have gone self-defensive, sugar coating it and trying to save face, and although sometimes it annoys me that they know so much, in the end it feels good knowing I'm true to myself.
And the same thing I think can apply to the decision of dropping the rope or not. If we hang in there just a bit longer instead of giving up, if we are true to ourself and our feelings, I think we will easier find closure if one day there is no reconciliation.
In the future, if no R, I would rather be left with "I gave it a good shot" than "D@mn, did I give up to soon?"
Together for 8,5 years. S2 Interest in OM. She left 29.09.12 b/c we couldn't work things out. No signs of OM, not digging. Living in seperate homes, sharing custody.
