No, she never did do anything to show or prove the A was over. I had to take her word on it. Neither therapist ever pushed her to either. They just said in front of her and I that she wouldn’t do it again and the first one said “if she did “she’d be stupid”. She was never pushed to prove it. She certainly did not offer me the openness you gave your H. My wife was adamant about her privacy and her right to secrecy and not share this information. The first therapist backed her up on this and I was astounded. She did tell me early on she missed him and felt some loss but it was all fantasy. She said she did not love him. She did say she wanted to not think about it anymore and put it all behind, but it was never really dealt with and the therapists warned if not then what is happening now will happen. She just kept saying “I will do it my way”.
Both therapists and my lawyer have told me privately that I am one patient and understanding man and she does not see that.
Do you love your H now?
M17 yrs. me49 xW47 d15 d11
BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out) Therapy 9 months (tried 2) BD2- May/12(sep) Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50 Sold home - Aug/13 Court #2 - Dec/13 Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again We settled.
