I could use a little help again. I dropped S off at school this am and needed to drop his weekend stuff at W house too before work (she lives close to school so not a problem).
Anyway, she invited my in for coffee (again!) and we had a good conversation - nothing important, just general stuff.
I remained upbeat and when it came to me leaving she looked kinda sad stood on the doorstep. I know I perhaps shldnt have but asked if she was okay. She nodded then shook her head and burst into tears.
I gave her a hug (we both initiated it, sort of went to hug each other at the same time). She said its just hard and that she does not want me to think she is sat there all happy now she has left. I simply replied I know. Told her to take care and left.
This got my emotions running on my drive to work. I know she will probably be feeling guilty etc etc.
What I am more worried about is that I keep my words v short but not purposely, I just don't know what else to say. I don't want to admit its hard on me because I need to be the strong one and it is not about me. But is there anything more I could be saying in these sitchs other than I know! How would I know - it is not me who has left and in her head!
Also, is this common? Reading other sitchs it seems the WAS does not show remorse/guilt/emotion etc etc and I am worried that I may miss opportunities to improve things.
Again, this is a v short timescale as she has only been gone just over a week now so it will feel strange for her. But she is opening up a little to me by the look of it.
Any suggestions would be useful on this. Mainly because if W started to show any emotion at all I thought it would be a few months off and she keeps catching me off guard!
