I simply re-iterated that I understood and that I loved him and cared for him but I was going to move forward with my life for myself and for our D. He did apologized and I apologized for calling. I am a reactor, I realize that now more than ever.
You handled that part of it well, but you are correct that you shouldn't have called to begin with. You shouldn't ever call him unless it's something important (kid-related). If he calls you then be pleasant, but try not to initiate calls.
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So two questions: the first is the obvious one - could the movie be a small sign?
Sure, I'd say it's a baby step, but don't have any expectations about what it means. It's just a very slight softening of his position. Celebrate it internally and keep DB'ing.
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Question 2 for those LBS who have children - what do you tell your children?
My kids are older than yours, but I was careful not to blame W for the S. I told them that we both love them and are both here for them, but that the two of us are having differences and needed to take some time and space away from each other. I've reinforced to them over and over that it has nothing to do with them. S9 in particular has had trouble with blaming himself. I touch base with them every couple of weeks to make sure they're OK, but they don't like talking about it so I don't push it more than that.
