You fear question. As I need less and am feeling more confident, I'm having less fear. Fear isn't a real emotion. It is a response to outside stimuli that attacks our sense of safety. The more safe I feel with myself, the less fear I feel.
I'm actually not afraid of losing my wife. I just don't want to. My best emotion, love, is deeply felt for her. My fear of everything else in the world, became my priority, when I should have kept my wife as my priority. I thought Ineeded to succeed to keep my wife and make her happy. Every failure threatened that.
The sad thing is I had my wife, and there was no threat to that, except my screwed up beliefs that our happiness was dependant on something outside the two of us.
So true.
Fear is an important response to threat. The trouble comes when we become so fear-based the the lizard brain takes over with even the smallest threat.
I've found that when I can recognize that happening, I can respond rather than react.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
